A Gift of a Lifetime

By Jim Perrone –

Mentoring is a  gift that someone chooses to  give you. And knowing that the person does not have  to give that gift adds immeasurably to your appreciation of its value. I recalled just such a mentoring moment as I was thinking of this blog post.

One day a friend, whom I also consider a mentor, took the trouble to give  me some exceptionally impactful  advice in the form of very direct feedback. It happened over twenty-five years ago, but I remember it as if it occurred yesterday. Such if the case with gifts like this.

I was crossing Chicago’s loop, taking a short cut through the City Hall/County Building when whom should I bump into but Roger, my old boss and mentor. Larry Ambrose and I were in the first year of our consulting business and were trying hard to make contacts and get our name out. Some months earlier Roger had provided us with a list of four or five possible contacts. So when he saw me he asked how we were doing and had we followed up on his referrals. Indeed, something had come from his suggestions. I happily told him how we actually had the opportunity to make presentations to two different business school audiences, leads that had come directly from his contacts.

Roger said he was happy to hear that. Then, he put his hand on my shoulder, looked me in the eye and said, “I have a little advice. Never forget to thank people who are trying to help you. And even more important, let them know what’s come of it.”

He was not harsh or blaming, but completely sincere and direct, and he helped me see what I had neglected. Needless to say I was very embarrassed and I vowed to never let something like that happen again. This became a lesson that I’ve never forgotten or ignored, one I have passed on to others in our company and in our training programs. The clarity of his feedback, which he tied to my concern for the success of our business, was a genuine gift for which I remain forever grateful.

All because someone cared enough and had the  courage to deliver an uncomfortable but powerful mentoring moment. There’s just no limit to the good that can be done when someone takes a moment to mentor.

I hope my mentoring moment spurs your memory of similar moments you have experienced and that you will be generous enough to share them with us.

Jim Perrone –

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About Mentoring Moments

Perrrone-Ambrose Associates specializes in assisting organizations of all sizes and missions to provide mentoring to their employees at every level. We accomplish this by creating mentoring systems and training strategies and programs for mentors and their mentees in establishing helping relationships. We started this blog with objective of sharing what we continue to discover about the mentoring process and by providing a clearinghouse for sharing our readers' experiences in the world of mentoring.

One response to “A Gift of a Lifetime”

  1. cashflowstoo says :

    Mentorship is truly a Gift of a Lifetime. I value the mentor’s I’ve had in the past and she time they shared with me. Friendship too has shown me the value of time and money. They are two precious resources that will never be returned.

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