One of the most exciting moves in the game of baseball occurs when the slugger steals a base, then two, then three, then slides home!
In some ways, the dividends of being a mentor are a bit like stealing all the bases. Here’s what one seasoned mentor wrote:
—–“I get to re-teach myself important lessons from my experience, as I prepare to support my mentee.
—–My only mission is to help my mentee become more able, so I concentrate on listening, clarifying, probing and challenging. That carries over into all my relationships and helps ME be a better person and more interesting to be around.
—–Mentoring forces me to re-open my mind to a wider range of alternatives and ways of thinking. I become more creative and thoughtful, and that rubs off on my own habits, judgments and decision-making.
—–Working with mentees from different circumstances helps me look at t hings I might otherwise ignore or never face. I’ve had mentees who are younger, older, of a different gender, culture and race than myself. They have gifted me with a spectrum of views, values, norms and ways of thinking that i can now celebrate.”
WOW! That’s like stealing ALL the bases….in the game of life…and winning the inning!
both Mentors and Mentees struggle to balance working priorities and living priorities.
Necessary work-life balance can best be created through intentional responses to conflicting pressures.
Here are some discovery questions that apply to both Mentors and Mentees as they face this challenge:
—–What are your priorities at this stage of your life?
—–What is most stressful for you right now, regarding work/life balance?
—–What does ideal balance look like on your job? In your home life?
—–What is your significant other’s awareness regarding your job stress?
—–What are your boundaries regarding when work “wants” to intrude on your life?
—–What will be consequences if you do NOT achieve better work/life balance?
Is there any tangible evidence of mentoring success? Well, yes, there is.
It is possible to evaluate mentoring success using at least 3 basic measures:
PROFESSIONAL GROWTH: Is the mentee more competent? More able? More responsible for self-development?Becoming as good as can be and better than has been?
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT: Does the mentee act with increased confidence, making decisions, charting a meaningful career direction?
Doe she or he take more ownership and become more pro-active? Does the mentee Deliver on initiatives with a sense of inner strength that is not over-inflated?
APPROPRIATE RISK-TAKING: Are communications authentic? Can mentor and mentee have honest exchanges about their partnership?
Can the mentee leave some comfort zones to experience breakthrough growth through learning and accomplishing in new arenas?
Measuring the mentoring process needs to be ON-GOING and has the goal of constant improvement at its core!