Here’s a list of demands-upon-self that can turn mentoring absolutely golden:
—Devote at least 2 hours a month to the mentoring process, including at least 1 meeting with your mentor.
—Participate in all formal mentoring activities.
—Take full responsibility for your own development.
—Initiate the mentoring process, meeting regularly with your mentor, fulfilling follow-up actions.
—Commit to accelerate the process of your growth.
—Articulate your growth goals, to yourself and to your mentor.
—Invite and accept feedback, coaching, and new challenges.
—Step out of your comfort zone and actively pursue learning opportunities.
—Solicit feedback and receive it for your use.
—Respect the confidentiality guidelines of your mentoring partnership.
—View the formal mentoring process as long-term with strategic focus, rather than for mere day-to-day problem solving.
One of the most exciting moves in the game of baseball occurs when the slugger steals a base, then two, then three, then slides home!
In some ways, the dividends of being a mentor are a bit like stealing all the bases. Here’s what one seasoned mentor wrote:
—–“I get to re-teach myself important lessons from my experience, as I prepare to support my mentee.
—–My only mission is to help my mentee become more able, so I concentrate on listening, clarifying, probing and challenging. That carries over into all my relationships and helps ME be a better person and more interesting to be around.
—–Mentoring forces me to re-open my mind to a wider range of alternatives and ways of thinking. I become more creative and thoughtful, and that rubs off on my own habits, judgments and decision-making.
—–Working with mentees from different circumstances helps me look at t hings I might otherwise ignore or never face. I’ve had mentees who are younger, older, of a different gender, culture and race than myself. They have gifted me with a spectrum of views, values, norms and ways of thinking that i can now celebrate.”
WOW! That’s like stealing ALL the bases….in the game of life…and winning the inning!
both Mentors and Mentees struggle to balance working priorities and living priorities.
Necessary work-life balance can best be created through intentional responses to conflicting pressures.
Here are some discovery questions that apply to both Mentors and Mentees as they face this challenge:
—–What are your priorities at this stage of your life?
—–What is most stressful for you right now, regarding work/life balance?
—–What does ideal balance look like on your job? In your home life?
—–What is your significant other’s awareness regarding your job stress?
—–What are your boundaries regarding when work “wants” to intrude on your life?
—–What will be consequences if you do NOT achieve better work/life balance?